In today’s culture, a woman’s worth is often measured by two things: her appearance and her career achievements. From social media’s obsession with youth and beauty to the pressure of breaking glass ceilings, many women feel torn between these expectations. But is this the full picture of a meaningful life?

In this video, we explore:
✅ How modern feminism has reduced womanhood to youth and career success while neglecting the lifelong journey of womanhood (maiden, mother, matriarch).
✅ Why Christian women should only welcome the pursuit of godly men and encourage biblical leadership in relationships.
✅ The real impact of career-first ideology, the challenges of delaying marriage and motherhood, and the importance of biblical priorities.
✅ How women who are single or childless still have a vital, God-honoring role as spiritual mothers and mentors in the Church.

Despite society’s confusion, God gives women a freeing and life-giving identity—not rooted in external success, but in being His beloved daughters. Whether in the workplace, at home, or in ministry, Christian women have an essential role in shaping the next generation.

This sermon was preached on October 29, 2023.

Resource:
Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood - Edited by John Piper & Wayne Grudem
Handbook of Gender Research in Psychology – Chrisler & McCreary (2010)

Timecodes:
00:00 - Intro
00:28 - 2 supplementary sources used in this sermon
02:16 - Why men should care about biblical womanhood
04:35 - Sex differences in mate selection
06:26 - Sex differences in body image
08:50 - Women change social behavior due to body image issues
09:27 - Ratio of men and women who get cosmetic surgery
10:13 - How does the Bible gauge the value of physical beauty in women?
11:54 - Physical beauty is good but not the marker of a woman’s worth
12:53 - Christian women, God loves you and delights in you
13:47 - Pre-occupation in looking at other beautiful women (in media) brings more harm than good
14:52 - Physical attractiveness that draws male attention is solely for one’s husband, NOT for all men
15:32 - Anything God determines as right is always good for us
15:50 - Why drawing broad male attention is unwise
16:52 - How decrease in physical attractiveness due to engaging informs what is wise/unwise
18:27 - Christian wives should maintain attractiveness for their husbands
20:15 - Husbands need to verbally appreciate their wives for making effort in their physical appearance
21:46 - Sex differences in sin tendencies
22:44 - Character beauty vs. physical beauty
24:42 - There's always opportunity for women who have gone astray to repent
26:03 - Older Asian women's tendency to criticize too much on physical appearance
26:43 - Suggestion to mothers who have criticized their daughter's appearance
27:56 - Example of how to put proper emphasis on physical appearance in raising daughters
29:25 - Fathers' affirmation of their daughter will guard them from insecurity and bad male attention
30:07 - Careful about social media for pre-teen girls
32:01 - Example of how to train a daughter's character
32:53 - Affirm godly women in the church
34:15 - Christian women's godliness to their father
35:15 - Old Christian women and their interactions with aged parents
36:09 - Christian women's godliness with their biological brothers
37:30 - Christian women's choice of male friends
38:27 - Only date godly and worthy Christian men
39:23 - Inspiring quote for Christian mothers
40:13 - Christian women can't be best as mother and career-women without compromise
40:49 - Advice to young Christian women considering desires for family and career
41:42 - Advice to Christian women with career and have children
42:20 - The Church should not view women without children as strange or ungodly
42:42 - Be sensitive to married women who don't have children (beware of a vice in Asian culture)
43:40 - The opportunities for ministry by single women and women without children
45:06 - Christiaan women's godliness in the workplace
45:52 - Don't buy into society's narrative of career success
46:50 - Comply to your boss'/manager's reasonable requests
47:27- Do your work well even if your teammates are not
47:39 - What to do with those who steal work credit from others
48:11 - Know your and Be yourself rather than buy into society's narratives
49:30 - Don't try to act like men if some characteristics are not natural to you?
50:50 - See your workplace as a place of witness
51:28 - Your holistic health, personal walk with God and marriage should be just as important as your children
52:14 - Husbands really need to help wives balance
53:39 - Husbands should lead in date nights (and what that date night entails)
57:10 - Regularly pray with your husband for your children's salvation
58:33 - Teach your children how to pray meaningfully
1:00:43 - Mothers with young children, give yourself a break
1:01:33 - Husbands, step up to do more chores